Dedicated to KJ…..

So my youngest daughter has discovered my blog…. there’s very little that I can get away with in my house without family involvement so I don’t know why I’m surprised!!!

Anyway she requested a blog dedicated to her so here we go….

K is for kind. she is kind to to those around her and is always thinking about how her actions affect others. kind

 

 

 

A is for affectionate. She loves cuddles just because….

affectionate

thoughtful

T is for thoughtful in a lot of ways. You can nearly see the wheels in motion in her mind mulling things over.

 

inquisitive

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I is for inquisitive. If there’s a question to be asked, KJ will ask it.

 

E is for easily pleased. KJ is very grateful for anything you buy or give or do for her. She is laid back and easy going.

easily pleased

Love you KJ xxxx watch this space cause as soon as the other ones finds out she’ll want one too:)

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Giving kids responsibilities….(not mad about the word ‘chores’)

So I’m probably very late to this topic as my daughters are 13 and 10. Lately though I’ve come to the conclusion that I do far too much for them. I guess I’ve known this for a while but I justify it to myself that they are really good kids. I’m not bragging here or anything, they’re not perfect but I am really proud that they are well behaved, polite, grateful happy kids.

Trouble is I don’t think I’m actually doing them any favours really. My eldest is 13 and still quite young at heart. She just started secondary school and has settled in really well thankfully!! Because she leaves for the bus at 7.45am, I started making her bed and pulling her curtains etc after she left. There would be pj’s on the floor, face wipes on the dresser, hairdryer etc left dangling everywhere and I, like a big aul softie would pick it all up and put it away so she has a nice clean room to come home to. I’ve literally made my own bed, I know, ironic huh!! She kind of takes it for granted now that I will do it for her.

My youngest is 10 and has the same habits – when I get home from work at 2ish and she’s not due home till 3 I go down to her room and pick up clothes, pj’s, art supplies etc and tidy them all away.

I know that some of it is because I am a serious control freak!!! Nobody does it like I do. Sometimes I get sick and tired of hearing my own voice ‘nagging’ and asking for stuff to be done that it’s just easier to do it myself…….

They don’t actually have any responsibilities around the house! Every now and again I’ll ask them to empty the dishwasher or put away some laundry, sometimes lay the table for dinner and clear it afterwards but nothing daily or regular. I suppose because I work part time I do more for them than parents who work full time and have less time at home than me. Is that just making excuses??

How do I start now without seeming like a right nag or cranky mammy?? I have to stress that they are far from spoiled in all other ways, they are rarely in trouble and fights between me and them are quite rare!! I know how lucky I am in this regard and long may it flippin last!!!

What to other mammies give their kids to do around the house I wonder…..

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Rant required…..

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Ok so I’m angry and I need a rant.

I have a stepdaughter, she’s 19 now. A lovely girl, to be fair we’ve always had a great relationship,

Lately though she doesn’t seem to want to visit, maybe not that she doesn’t want to but her weekends are full of social activities. I have no issue with that, feck it she’s 19, she should be out having fun. I do still firmly believe though that you have to make some time for family. We’ve always included her in our family life and even when we moved to Roscommon we still make frequent trips to see her and take part in all the milestones in her life.

This morning was the last straw for me. My daughter has a big show with her dance class in Dublin in February, tickets go on sale on Monday and she text her sister to ask her did she want a ticket. The reply was “sure I’ll probably be working” which may as well have said – I couldn’t be bothered, I don’t really care. She seems to think that she works a 60 hour week and is tied to her job, in reality she works about 25 hours a week in a flexible job which will probably cut her hours after Christmas anyway.

My daughter was heartbroken, cried her heart out. A great start to the day!!!

I try to convince her to concentrate on the family around her who do love her and who do make the effort for her but my words didn’t seem to help. Out comes the mammy bear in me who won’t let anyone upset her cubs!! I fired off a very angry private FB message and told her how selfish and thoughtless she had been. No doubt I won’t get a reply but I still had to say it. If I was her mother I would have wrung her neck in person.

I hate arguing with people, it eats me up inside and consumes my day 😦

Rant over….