Giving kids responsibilities….(not mad about the word ‘chores’)

So I’m probably very late to this topic as my daughters are 13 and 10. Lately though I’ve come to the conclusion that I do far too much for them. I guess I’ve known this for a while but I justify it to myself that they are really good kids. I’m not bragging here or anything, they’re not perfect but I am really proud that they are well behaved, polite, grateful happy kids.

Trouble is I don’t think I’m actually doing them any favours really. My eldest is 13 and still quite young at heart. She just started secondary school and has settled in really well thankfully!! Because she leaves for the bus at 7.45am, I started making her bed and pulling her curtains etc after she left. There would be pj’s on the floor, face wipes on the dresser, hairdryer etc left dangling everywhere and I, like a big aul softie would pick it all up and put it away so she has a nice clean room to come home to. I’ve literally made my own bed, I know, ironic huh!! She kind of takes it for granted now that I will do it for her.

My youngest is 10 and has the same habits – when I get home from work at 2ish and she’s not due home till 3 I go down to her room and pick up clothes, pj’s, art supplies etc and tidy them all away.

I know that some of it is because I am a serious control freak!!! Nobody does it like I do. Sometimes I get sick and tired of hearing my own voice ‘nagging’ and asking for stuff to be done that it’s just easier to do it myself…….

They don’t actually have any responsibilities around the house! Every now and again I’ll ask them to empty the dishwasher or put away some laundry, sometimes lay the table for dinner and clear it afterwards but nothing daily or regular. I suppose because I work part time I do more for them than parents who work full time and have less time at home than me. Is that just making excuses??

How do I start now without seeming like a right nag or cranky mammy?? I have to stress that they are far from spoiled in all other ways, they are rarely in trouble and fights between me and them are quite rare!! I know how lucky I am in this regard and long may it flippin last!!!

What to other mammies give their kids to do around the house I wonder…..

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